Teaching men to say ‘no’

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Being hit on feels icky?

In the first Dragon Age, one of your (male) character’s (male) boon companions makes a pass at you. (In the new one, it’s apparently even more subtle.) You don’t want to alienate him–one of the ‘scores’ in the game is your friendliness level toward your companions–and so if you’re not into that sort of thing, you might feel some pressure to say yes. Agree to sex you don’t want, just so that someone doesn’t hate you.

Solution space

Maybe a solution, then, is the Remedial Polite Rejection Curriculum, or RPRC. (I failed to come up with a clever acronym. Maybe you’ve got one.) We need training, now, that helps boys learn how to say no, firmly and politely.

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Alex Feinman

Alex Feinman

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